Chosen Perspective..

Ladies..

I have got to tell you a little bit of about

how Grateful I am to God for giving me a

new perspective on my life over the last couple

of years..

God gave me the word

Choice

one day and to some of you,,

this may sound a bit strange..

but my personality

back then could not comprehend that word..

I am what is know as a People Pleaser..

Never wanting to hurt anyones feelings,

disappoint them, and dont like saying NO

to anyone, in fear that they would be upset..

And just let me tell you....

that is a big job to fill.

I have spent the majority of my adult life

trying to make everyone elses life

go just perfect..

(ok, Im a little bit of a perfectist tooooo)

But in that, it caused such turmoil inside of me..

And I beleive the result of that has manifested

into my Colitis..

Always worried about what other

people thought, felt and needed..

And never giving one ounce of concern for myself..

So then I would get fed up, and become

rebellious..

Going from one extreme to the other..

Now not only was my actions improper, but

now I worried about what people thought of my

bad choices and actions...

(Gosh, it was a never ending battle )

~ BUT ~

Then God gave me

A NEW PERSPECTIVE.

(woooo hoooo )

A NEW OUTLOOK

he showed me that I  can

CHOOSE.

Now..

dont get me wrong

I still love to make people happy,

I enjoy seeing others enjoy their lives.

But I NO longer feel  responcible for their happiness

nor are they  for MINE..

~ Example ~

I used to depend on my husband to make me happy..

and I wouldnt go and do anything without him..

Which was a problem, because I am very outgoing and social person !!!

He enjoys being home with this family and that is all he needs...

I need people and stimulations..

I love the beach,,he hates the beach..

So for years..I just chose not to go to the beach very often

because i didnt want to go alone..

But God has shown me that I should

not put the expectations on anyone

to bring me happiness..

If I find peace and enjoyment at the beach..

Then Go !

But dont put that obligation on my husband

who doesnt enjoy it..

I enjoy being around people, so now

I have joined more womans bible studies

to get that simulations and conversation

with fellowshipping, rather

than making my husband do something

that he is less than comfortable doing..

And one last point.....

Remember those bad choice and actions I spoke

of earlier..

I allowed Satan to shame and guilt me

into wearing those Choices I made as

a label..

But God gave me Beauty for Ashes..

And showed me how I am a Concuier

and Victor.

As Lysa TerKeurst puts it

Let the Messiah take our Mess

and turn it into his Message..

God has blessed me with the

gift of gab..

and with that a gift also a drawing for

women to reach out and talk to me

about their choices in life without feeling

judged...

And I feel so blessed for that..

God has shown me that

he gives us many many Choices..

Good , Happy Choices..

John 10:10

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy;

 I have come that they may have life,

and have it to the full.

So I Choose To:

Be

 Happy, Joyful,

Comforted and Content

Grateful, Redemed,Loving

Encouraging,Gracious

and 

Free to Be Me

(at a beach somewhere, lol )

But Loving the New Me that God has

Made..

And I am so much better for my family

and friends for it..

At the end of the day

Are you happy with your Choices

and your perspective of life?

Choose

to be free from guilt and condemation

and

Choose to be a chosen vessel

of the Lord..