Restore and Renew
My husband and I are proof that God cares.
That he still loves the unity of marriage.
And can and does preform miracles that allow families to stay together.
God is in the
Miracle Workin, Restoration Business..
This picture was taken in 2004
on our 2nd Honeymoon..
On our 19th wedding anniversary John and I sat
at opposing tables with attorneys by our sides in a divorce hearing.
I had felt that John was not a good husband to me, and that I could do better..
My husband felt that he could not trust me as his wife.
And our 3 children were caught in the middle..
It was an ugly divorce to say the least..
As all divorces are.
Everyone that I knew,, convinced me that I was doing the right thing..
And everyone that John spoke to ,, told him that he was doing the right thing too..
Cut your losses and Run !!!
Move On !!
But God continued even in the midst of use both moving on
with our lives,,to work on our hearts..
God took the place of my now absent husband in providing and protecting me..
And he started working on my Johns heart as well as mine..
John would call me (because I refused to see him) and he would
ask me to turn on the radio and listen to Focus on the Family with him,,
him on his phone me on mine..
Now my husband had never been the Spiritual leader of our home before..
so for him to do that was totally out of character for him..
And things like this continued to happen..
After a long while we started to date again.
And as the fairy tale goes..
We lived Happily Ever After..
That may not to totally true.. God still had a lot of changing to
do on both of us..
but we soon learned that in order to visit the thought of reconciliation , things would have to be different this time around..
We lived by the motto of :
(or a bad marriage)
Is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result..
We had to ask God to give us a new love for each other
to show us a new way to do marriage..
To help us let go of the past
The harsh words that were spoken,, the broken hearts,, the unfaithfulness,
And to give us New hearts to love each other in a new way..
AND HE DID...
It didnt happen over night,, and there was trying moments.
but God has changed our hearts from the inside out..
and we just celebrated
27 yrs marriage in Feb 2012
And I feel so blessed..
When our children and grand children walk in our door they walk into
Mom and Dad's
house and that means a lot to me.
They are not forced to divide up their time and holidays between
moms home ,,and then off to dads..
I realize that this is not possible for everyone..
Both John and I's heart was willing to be touched by the Lord..
We were"both" willing to do the hard work that God had in store for us.
But I also know that during our time of divorce..
encouraged us to stay together.
This world is all about ,
The grass is greener on the other side..
If you fall out of love, move on..
marriage is good as long as it makes me feel warm and toasty.
No one puts in the hard work anymore,, its easier to pay someone to file the papers..
But God created Marriage,, and he loves Families..
And if we are willing to follow his teachings he can save, change and restore even
the most disfunctional marriages..
He can heal the most wounded heart.
And we can stand tall and teach our children about the
Love of the Lord
The Value of Family.
John and I and our 3 beautiful Grandchildren..
God is Good !
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