Guarding Against Infidelity

You could be in your 20's and married for a month

or

in your 70's and married for 50 yrs

yet we still need to be aware and on

guard to protect our marriages from

infidelty.

Satan is out there, and it seems that

he is doing a pretty good job of destroying

even the best of marriages..

I was listening to my pastor in Bradenton sermon,

the series is called

Taking back the Home.

http://www.tcabradenton.com/pod/

and

I loved the suggestions of

 boundaries he spoke of,

and I wanted to share them with you.

Now I feel that I can speak to you about infidelity,

 since it has touched my marriage and family.

When my husband and I split up years ago,

 I was not faithful to him, our marriage or to God.

BUT

God has forgiven me of my sins,

and has now allowed me to share with others

my mistakes and regrets..

And has given my beauty for ashes

Replaced my tears of mourning and guilt

with a grateful heart

and has restored my marriage and my family..

Wooooo Hooooo.

I wish I could say that if I would of

known these boundaries before

I would not of strayed..

But that is not true.

I knew right from wrong,but I listened

to the whisperings of Satan instead of

doing what I knew was right.

So I have no excuse.

But since God has shown me Grace,

and has given me a second chance

at restoring my family, I am a firm

believer in boundaries..

So please allow me to share these with you.

Be where you are suppose to be

 Dont allow yourself to be in circumstances

that might lead you or your spouse into temptation.

You know what your weaknesses are,

but more important Satan knows your weaknesses

and will play them against you.

 So dont give him the oppurtunity.

Recommit to your loved one

Your spouse, your marriage, your family, your trust in God

is important enough to work through the hard times.

Dont through your hands up in the air

 and walk away from it all.

Recommit to your loved ones, Unconditionally

Give your concerns over to God,

 and watch what he will do.

Dont expect your spouse to settle

Dont think that just because he has a ring on his finger

that he should settle..

Dont think that a marriage license will

keep him in that warm fuzzy feeling of love..

Treat him with respect and honor.

 Keep the home fires burning.

Never let him doubt even in hard time

 that he is no longer your hero,

 and let him know that

you love him as much today as the day you got married..

And always remember ...

no matter how old we are, how long we have been married

there will always be

 some one waiting on the sidelines to swoop in

and whisper sweet nothings in their ear,

the moment satan see's an oppurtinity.

So make sure that you are both keeping proper boundaries

 in this world when it comes to the people of the oppisite sex

Here are a few:

Never go alone with anyone of the opposite sex,

  unless they are in your family.

Its not that you we are that weak

it it is that Satan in that powerful.

Rumors start.

You may not think anything of it, but the other person may.

It is a position that can easily be avoided.

Dont do meeting or go to lunch alone

alone with someone of the opposite sex. 

Pretty much for the same reasons above..

Meetings are to remain in the office,

 and they are a big girl/boy and can

go to lunch on their own.

Just dont open a door or oppurtunity,

 no matter how innocent it is intended to be.

Find a accountability partner

Find a Godly friend (of the same sex) and let them

know that you require them to tell you the truth about

what they see, looking in from the outside.

Require them to hold your feet to the fire.

and to remind you to look at situations from the eyes of God.

Honor God

God has blessed you with your marriage .

And you stood before God and entered into a covenent of 3

God ~your spouse~you.

Infidelity ALWAYS scares..

You not only hurt your spouse, but your family

and always hurt and dishonor  God  and what he has given you.

Talk to your spouse tonight.

Set us boundaries

Be commited to stand by those boundaries

for your God

for your marriage

for your children

for the sake of your family.

 Look at the state of the world today

and that alone should encourage you and your loved one

to recommit to each other,set up boundaries that will

protect your marriage and your family.

And God will bless you for standing on his word.

Thanks for stopping by to visit today.

I pray that God used even one sentence on this page to

encourage and enlighten you to stand

on the promises of God.

He is able and ready to give us the desires of our hearts

and life abundant.

Have a blessed day.

Love, Karen